Islam is a blessing and you can see it practice by those who are being oppressed and killed due to their Islam. I look at the Muslims in the Muslim lands and they amaze me.
WAllaahi they are oppressed physically, but we Muslims in the West are oppressed spiritually.
To the Muslims living in the West, when have you seen Islam as a blessing and not a burden?
How many sisters complain, “I can’t wear Hijaab because I won’t find a good job.”
You are oppressed by your nafs.
How many youth don’t pray 5 times a day because they don’t want to be judged by their friends.
You are oppressed by your nafs.
How many parents don’t wake up their children for Fajr or teach them about Islam because they think it’s not important.
You are oppressed by your nafs.
How many brothers don’t attend the salah in the Masjid or seek halal options for work.
You are oppressed by your nafs.
Can you not see what makes the Muslims so strong? Do you not desire to be like them?
Learning the deen is so convenient in our times. You can even obtain a B.A. in Islamic Sciences for free!
Stop being oppressed by your nafs my dear brothers and sisters and learn about deen.
Here are some resources to get you started.
Learn Tajweed and how to recite Qur’aan:
Tafseer of the whole Qur’aan and other courses (Jan 2015):
B.A. in Islamic Sciences:
May Allaah make the path of seeking knowledge accessible to you.
I recently taught this du’aa to my students while teaching the Adab of Traveling. It is such a beautiful du’aa and very easy to memorize if you memorize it in chunks. My students finished memorizing it in 3 classes, walHumdulillaah.
اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ، اللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ
سُبْحَانَ الذِي سَخَّرَ لَنَا هَذَا وَمَا كُنَّا لَهُ مُقْرِنِينَ وَإِنَّا إِلَى رَبِّنَا لَمُنْقَلِبُونَ
اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّا نَسْأَلُكَ فِي سَفَرِنَا هَذَا الْبِرَّ وَالتَّقْوَى، وَمِنَ الْعَمَلِ مَا تَرْضَى، اللَّهُمَّ هَوِّنْ عَلَيْنَا سَفَرَنَا هَذَا، وَاطْوِ عَنَّا بُعْدَهُ، اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ الصَّاحِبُ فِي السَّفَرِ، وَالْخَلِيفَةُ فِي الأَهْلِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ وَعَثَاءِ السَّفَرِ وَكَآبَةِ الْمَنْظَرِ وَسُوءِ الْمُنْقَلَبِ فِي الْمَالِ وَالأَهْلِ،
وَإِذَا رَجَعَ قَالَهُنَّ وَزَادَ <<آيِبُونَ تَائِبُونَ عَابِدُونَ لِرَبِّنَا حَامِدُونَ» رواه مسلم
“Allah is the greatest, Allah is the greatest, Allah is the greatest,
How perfect He is, The One Who has placed this (transport) at our service, and we ourselves would not have been capable of that, and to our Lord is our final destiny.
O Allah, we ask You for birr (righteousness) and taqwa (God-conscious) in this journey of ours, and we ask You for deeds which please You. O Allah, facilitate our journey and let us cover it’s distance quickly. O Allah, You are The Companion on the journey and The Successor over the family, O Allah, I take refuge with You from the difficulties of travel, from having a change of hearts and being in a bad predicament, and I take refuge in You from an ill fated outcome with wealth and family.”
Upon returning the same supplication is recited with the following addition (We return, repent, worship and praise our Lord.)
You can also hear the audio and transliteration on this page
Ibn Hazm ad-Dhahiri, one of the great scholars of Al-Andalus/Islamic Spain, states in one of his books matters about the relationship between men and women in words to this effect:
“Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has created men and women from each other. He placed in between them a wall which segregated the two genders. Behind this wall is ‘mercy” whereas the front portion of this wall is torment. In between the wall there is a door. So whoever wishes happiness, comfort, benevolence, and mercy from the opposite side of this wall, then he/she has to go through the door, and the door is marriage. And whoever tries to go to the other side through another way by knocking out the wall or breaking it, or by stealing some of pleasures of the opposite side, then he/she will have pain, worry, illness, and disgrace as his/her companions in this worldly life, and will have Hell fire awaiting him/her in the hereafter.”
[Tawq al Hamamah of Ibn Hazm al Andalusi]
This ayah comes after the ayah of Sabbath in suratul A’raaf (Chapter 7, verse 163)
The people of this village were divided into three groups: a group that committed the prohibition (catching fish on the Sabbath), another group prohibited them from transgression and avoided them. A third group neither prohibited them, nor participated in their action.
The third group said to the preachers, “Why do you advise [or warn] a people whom Allah is [about] to destroy or to punish with a severe punishment?”
The third group was more of the bystander group. Saw evil happening, Allaah’s boundaries being broken and they knew there was punishment coming but felt there was no benefit in forbidding them ya’ni why should we lose our breath?
So the group of ‘preachers‘ said – “In order to be free from guilt before your Lord (Allah),” `for we were commanded to enjoin righteousness and forbid evil’ (this was commanded to them in Suratul Baqarah)
Or – there could even be a win-win situation:
(“and perhaps they may fear Allah”) for on account of our advice, they might stop this evil and repent to Allah.
وَإِذْ قَالَتْ أُمَّةٌ مِنْهُمْ لِمَ تَعِظُونَ قَوْمًا اللَّهُ مُهْلِكُهُمْ أَوْ مُعَذِّبُهُمْ عَذَابًا شَدِيدًا قَالُوا مَعْذِرَةً إِلَى رَبِّكُمْ وَلَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَAnd when a community among them said, “Why do you advise [or warn] a people whom Allah is [about] to destroy or to punish with a severe punishment?” they [the advisors] said, “To be absolved before your Lord and perhaps they may fear Him.” Now this is the part I can’t stop thinking about:
When the punishment came, Allaah subHaanahu wa ta’aala rescued those who advised and took those who committed evil with His punishment. أَنجَيْنَا الَّذِينَ يَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ السُّوءِ وَأَخَذْنَا الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُواْ
But what about the passive group? The bystanders? What happened to them? What was their end?
There could only be two possible outcomes: a) They were rescued along those advised OR b) They were punished with those who committed the prohibition.
What do you think might have happened to them?
Once I tasted the sweetness of Imaan,
I never found anything to be sweeter.
Once I adorned myself with the clothing of Taqwaa,
I never found find any brand to be better.
Once I felt the pleasure in listening to the Qur’aan,
I never found anything more pleasant to hear.
Once I felt contentment in my Sajdah,
I never found peace elsewhere.
Once I felt hatred for kufr and sin,
I never felt anything as averse.
Once I experienced barakah in the Halaal rizq,
now I have greed nor hunger
… to be continued.
Growing up in North America, I always had little patience when things went wrong or not according to plan. It frustrated me and made me really upset. I do hold the culture blameworthy because everything and I mean EVERYTHING is a quick fix and at our fingertips.
But my husband, also growing up here had a very different outlook, which was very eye-opening for me.
When I’d be running late for someplace despite leaving home on time, and I’d be getting frustrated, he’d just look at me and tell me to say “AlHumdulillaah”: All thanks and praise belong to Allaah.
He will always make me realize that there is no point of getting upset or stressed. Just be grateful.
Initially, it was very hard for me. I’d mumble it but will still be frustrated in heart. But slowly, I began to realize that our job is to do the effort on our end, and leave the consequences to Allaah subHaanahu wa ta’aala. We do our part and let Allaah subHaanahu wa ta’aala take care of the rest. He is the Master, and we are the slaves. Even if things don’t turn out the way we had visioned them, then why is that such a big deal?
And being married, this is something which is a constant reminder for me. Let’s say for example, I plan to cook a delicious meal (which rarely happens) and I try my best to make it good. But for some reason or other, if the meal doesn’t cook up to my expectations, should I be a) angry, b) upset, c) sad, or d) grateful regardless?
Looking beyond the emotional tornado, the most logical answer is to be grateful. Being angry, upset or sad over the cooked meal is not going to change the way it looks or tastes. It might even add more bitterness to it! But by being grateful and content, I will bring peace to my heart and actually eat the meal!
And I won’t have to worry about my husband criticizing. AlHumdulilllaah for the husband who practices what he preaches. :)
(But if your family does criticize, A) they shouldn’t as it’s against the sunnah, B) with your calm demeanor you won’t get upset at the MEAL and your family. You can talk to them peacefully and not verbalize your frustration over the meal.)
A non-kitchen example is of buying a product on sale. I had my eye on this couch and while I was going to speak to the sales lady, there was another couple who was also interested in buying the couch. I let my husband know and he spoke to the sales lady privately (not in front of the other couple) so she can reserve it for us. When we came back after an hour to pick the couch up, I didn’t know whether she reserved it for us or has the other couple bought it. But I was ready to say AlHumdulillaah regardless of the outcome.
Marriage has taught me many more lessons like these and I am still learning. I have slowly start to understand why it is half of our deen.