“In human experience, language can enlighten but it can also entrap. One word can be so gravid with meaning, that it could ignite the outrage of citizens, the deployment of troops, the legal obligation of action. Its absence, on the other hand, could promote the opposite reason: the absence of deed.” – Stacey Gibson
As I read this today, this hadith kept spinning in my head:
Narrated Abu Hurairah radhiyAllaahu anhu: The Prophet, salAllaahu alayhi wasallam, said:
“A slave (of Allaah) may utter a word which pleases Allaah without giving it much importance, and because of that Allaah will raise him to degrees (of reward): a slave (of Allaah) may utter a word (carelessly) which displeases Allaah without thinking of its gravity and because of that he will be thrown into the Hell-Fire.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol 8 No. 485
During Ramadan, I’ve noticed, there isn’t much idle talk. Not because we don’t have the energy to, but our hearts are more softer during the days of Ramadan. Instead of focusing on feeding our stomachs, we focus much more on feeding our soul. We watch what we say, what we do… no cussing, lying, restraining anger, etc. We speak words which may bring comfort to our heart and to the ears of others. We search for words which may motivate us to do better and more, words that will help us grow. But the spirit slowly dies down shortly after the Blessed Month is over…
I read somewhere a long time ago that when the soul hungers and thirsts, the heart softens and becomes pure. And when it is fed, the heart becomes blinded – a quote by Abu Sulayman ad-Darani. So, really – what makes the soul hunger and thirst? and how can we really watch what we say? I will break it down from my standard of living.
My top two on the list are:
1) Eating less
It’s true! TRY it. When we only eat to survive, we’ll notice a big change in our daily dealings. Heart being softer, conversations to the point and MORE energy to do things. I have also noticed myself being more calm and not stressed when I eat less. I have also caught myself from lying!
2) Sleeping less
When we eat less, we sleep less. And by sleeping less, we increase our productivity. How does this affect our soul? InshaAllaah, it will once you apply your time positively and not waste it in watching T.V. or searching for other things to ‘kill’ your time.
There are also numerous benefits of sleeping less. It’s a great way to improve your health, and you are also less stressed for having more time on your hands :)
I pray to Allaah azza wa jall, to grant me the tawfeeq to implement the above two in my life on a constant and consistent basis. May Allaah subhanahu wa ta’ala grant you and me the ability to speak when necessary, and to speak what is true and beneficial – and more importantly – to say what may be the means of attaining the pleasure of our Lord and not His Wrath! Ameen. Lastly, I pray to Him, subhanahu wa ta’ala, to help me remember the fate of those who were destroyed because of their tongue. wa iyaadhu billah.
I leave you with the advice, Prophet Muhammad salAllaahu alayhi wasallam gave to Muaadh ibn Jabal – ‘Restrain this!’ (i.e., hold your tongue) I said: ‘O Prophet of Allaah, will we be held accountable for what we say?’ He, may Allaah bless him and grant him peace, said: “May your mother be bereaved of you, O Mu’adh! Is there anything that causes people to be dragged on their faces – or he said – on their noses into Hellfire other than the harvests of their tongues?’” (Al-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Ahmad- Sahih)