Ibn Hazm ad-Dhahiri, one of the great scholars of Al-Andalus/Islamic Spain, states in one of his books matters about the relationship between men and women in words to this effect:

“Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has created men and women from each other. He placed in between them a wall which segregated the two genders. Behind this wall is ‘mercy” whereas the front portion of this wall is torment. In between the wall there is a door. So whoever wishes happiness, comfort, benevolence, and mercy from the opposite side of this wall, then he/she has to go through the door, and the door is marriage. And whoever tries to go to the other side through another way by knocking out the wall or breaking it, or by stealing some of pleasures of the opposite side, then he/she will have pain, worry, illness, and disgrace as his/her companions in this worldly life, and will have Hell fire awaiting him/her in the hereafter.” 

[Tawq al Hamamah of Ibn Hazm al Andalusi]




This ayah comes after the ayah of Sabbath in suratul A’raaf (Chapter 7, verse 163)

The people of this village were divided into three groups: a group that committed the prohibition (catching fish on the Sabbath), another group prohibited them from transgression and avoided them. A third group neither prohibited them, nor participated in their action.
The third group said to the preachers, “Why do you advise [or warn] a people whom Allah is [about] to destroy or to punish with a severe punishment?”

The third group was more of the bystander group. Saw evil happening, Allaah’s boundaries being broken and they knew there was punishment coming but felt there was no benefit in forbidding them ya’ni why should we lose our breath?

So the group of ‘preachers‘ said – “In order to be free from guilt before your Lord (Allah),” `for we were commanded to enjoin righteousness and forbid evil’ (this was commanded to them in Suratul Baqarah) 

Or – there could even be a win-win situation: 

(“and perhaps they may fear Allah”) for on account of our advice, they might stop this evil and repent to Allah.

وَإِذْ قَالَتْ أُمَّةٌ مِنْهُمْ لِمَ تَعِظُونَ قَوْمًا اللَّهُ مُهْلِكُهُمْ أَوْ مُعَذِّبُهُمْ عَذَابًا شَدِيدًا قَالُوا مَعْذِرَةً إِلَى رَبِّكُمْ وَلَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ

And when a community among them said, “Why do you advise [or warn] a people whom Allah is [about] to destroy or to punish with a severe punishment?” they [the advisors] said, “To be absolved before your Lord and perhaps they may fear Him.”
Now this is the part I can’t stop thinking about:

When the punishment came, Allaah subHaanahu wa ta’aala rescued those who advised and took those who committed evil with His punishment.  أَنجَيْنَا الَّذِينَ يَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ السُّوءِ وَأَخَذْنَا الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُواْ

But what about the passive group? The bystanders? What happened to them? What was their end?



There could only be two possible outcomes: a) They were rescued along those advised OR b) They were punished with those who committed the prohibition. 

What do you think might have happened to them?


Once I tasted the sweetness of Imaan,
I never found anything to be sweeter.

Once I adorned myself with the clothing of Taqwaa,
I never found find any brand to be better.

Once I felt the pleasure in listening to the Qur’aan,
I never found anything more pleasant to hear.

Once I felt contentment in my Sajdah,
I never found peace elsewhere.

Once I felt hatred for kufr and sin,
I never felt anything as averse.

Once I experienced barakah in the Halaal rizq,
now I have greed nor hunger

… to be continued.

On Marriage…

Growing up in North America, I always had little patience when things went wrong or not according to plan. It frustrated me and made me really upset. I do hold the culture blameworthy because everything and I mean EVERYTHING is a quick fix and at our fingertips.

But my husband, also growing up here had a very different outlook, which was very eye-opening for me.
When I’d be running late for someplace despite leaving home on time, and I’d be getting frustrated, he’d just look at me and tell me to say “AlHumdulillaah”: All thanks and praise belong to Allaah.

He will always make me realize that there is no point of getting upset or stressed. Just be grateful.

Initially, it was very hard for me. I’d  mumble it but will still be frustrated in heart. But slowly, I began to realize that our job is to do the effort on our end, and leave the consequences to Allaah subHaanahu wa ta’aala. We do our part and let Allaah subHaanahu wa ta’aala take care of the rest. He is the Master, and we are the slaves. Even if things don’t turn out the way we had visioned them, then why is that such a big deal?

And being married, this is something which is a constant reminder for me. Let’s say for example, I plan to cook a delicious meal (which rarely happens) and I try my best to make it good. But for some reason or other, if the meal doesn’t cook up to my expectations, should I be a) angry, b) upset, c) sad, or d) grateful regardless?

Looking beyond the emotional tornado, the most logical answer is to be grateful. Being angry, upset or sad over the cooked meal is not going to change the way it looks or tastes. It might even add more bitterness to it! But by being grateful and content, I will bring peace to my heart and actually eat the meal!
And I won’t have to worry about my husband criticizing. AlHumdulilllaah for the husband who practices what he preaches. :)

(But if your family does criticize, A) they shouldn’t as it’s against the sunnah, B) with your calm demeanor  you won’t get upset at the MEAL and your family. You can talk to them peacefully and not verbalize your frustration over the meal.)

A non-kitchen example is of buying a product on sale. I had my eye on this couch and while I was going to speak to the sales lady, there was another couple who was also interested in buying the couch. I let my husband know and he spoke to the sales lady privately (not in front of the other couple) so she can reserve it for us. When we came back after an hour to pick the couch up, I didn’t know whether she reserved it for us or has the other couple bought it. But I was ready to say AlHumdulillaah regardless of the outcome.

Marriage has taught me many more lessons like these and I am still learning. I have slowly start to understand why it is half of our deen.


وَإِن مِّن شَىْءٍ إِلاَّ يُسَبِّحُ بِحَمْدَهِ

(and there is not a thing but glorifies His praise) meaning there is no created being that does not celebrate the praises of Allah.

The word شَىْءٍ means ‘any thing’

وَلَـكِن لاَّ تَفْقَهُونَ تَسْبِيحَهُمْ

(But you understand not their glorification) means, `You do not understand them, O mankind, because it is not like your languages.’

This applies to all creatures generally, animal, inanimate and botanical. This is the better known of the two opinions according to the most reliable of two opinions.

It was reported in Sahih Al-Bukhari that Ibn Mas`ud said: “We used to hear the Tasbih of the food as it was being eaten.”

Imam Ahmad recorded that Mu`adh bin Anas said that the Messenger of Allah came upon some people who were sitting on their mounts and talking to one another. He said to them:

«ارْكَبُوهَا سَالِمَةً وَدَعُوهَا سَالِمَةً، وَلَا تَتَّخِذُوهَا كَرَاسِيَّ لِأَحَادِيثِكُمْ فِي الطُّرُقِ وَالْأَسْوَاقِ، فَرُبَّ مَرْكُوبَةٍ خَيْرٌ مِنْ رَاكِبِهَا، وَأَكْثَرُ ذِكْرًااِللهِ مِنْه»

(Ride them safely then leave them safely. Do not use them as chairs for you to have conversations in the streets and marketplaces, because the one that is ridden may be better than the one who rides it, and may remember Allah more than he does)

An-Nasa’i recorded in his Sunan that `Abdullah bin `Amr said: “The Messenger of Allah forbade us from killing frogs.”

SalAllaahu ‘alayhi wasallam!!

Source: Ibn Katheer

I had written this more than 4 years ago but it still reminds me like it did back then.

:. السلام عليكم .:

The Prophet sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said: “A person can reach the level of a person who prays all night and fasts all day just because of his good akhlaaq.”


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Abu Dhar al-Ghafari said:

“The Messenger of Allah (Sal Allahu alayhi wasallam) said: ‘SadaQah (Charity) is prescribed for every person every day the sun rises.’

I said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, from what do we give sadaqah if we do not possess property?’

He said: ‘The doors of sadaqah are

  • takbir (Allahu Akbar), 
  • Subhan Allah, 
  • Alhamdulillah, 
  • La-ilaha-ilAllah, 
  • Astaghfirullah,
  • enjoining good, 
  • forbidding evil,
  • removing thorns, bones and stones from the paths of people, 
  • guiding the blind, 
  • listening to the deaf and dumb until you understand them, 
  • guiding a person to his object of need if you know where it is, 
  • hurrying with the strength of your legs to one in sorrow who is appealing for help, 
  • and supporting the weak with the strength of your arms.

These are all the doors of sadaqah.” [Ahmad]

SubHaanAllaah, how the Prophet (Sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) divided the acts of charity into unlimited categories. If one is unable to move around in the society and be an activist, then they have the option of still be generous with their time by moistening their tongues with the remembrance of Allaah (subHaanahu wa ta’aala) from within their home. You don’t have to own wealth to be charitable. Rich is the one who has a heart to share.
There are so many opportunities available. Take advantage of them!